Comments on: A Rant: Why Women Are (at times) Their Own Worst Enemy

By: Gypsy-Dharma

Gypsy-Dharma — Sat, 31 Aug 2013 00:03:01 +0000

It is odd that women always say that men who judge women based on their looks are superficial jerks. Yet women seem to do the very same thing and in many cases in a much more mean spirited way. Whether or not someone looks like you or not is no reason to be hateful whether they are skinny or larger.

By: Links to Love — Dramatis Personae

Links to Love — Dramatis Personae — Tue, 09 Apr 2013 13:46:37 +0000

[…] Why Women Are (At Times) Their Own Worst Enemy at Beautifully Invisible. I got angry because I knew it wasn’t true. I got angry because how dare she call me a cow when I know that I am beautiful! I know that and that is what matters. […]

By: Koi baby

Koi baby — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 04:12:23 +0000

Thank you!!!! My son calls me a woman-basher. I get upset with other woman for not taking a stand on the beauty we need to express to each other through sisterhood and helping one another through everything. I do not associate with catty, bitchy and controlling women. I appreciate your saying that even calling women twigs is just as bad. I would much rather have a friend than an enemy. It is very simple, treat all women with respect, dignity and genuine love for one another.
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By: Chrissie

Chrissie — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 18:59:08 +0000

I have a theory that no 2 women actually ever like one another when they 1st meet and that they can grow to like one another over time but as a rule it never starts out that way

By: Racheal Alonzo

Racheal Alonzo — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 20:46:32 +0000

This is probably going to sound real messed up but this this reminds me of why growing up and heck even today I tend to have way more male friends than females. When I was young it would have been attributed to me just growing up with 4 brothers and being a tomboy but as the years dragged on I simply found most women to be petty and self destructive in how they relate to other women. Classic example of the proof right here.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 04:52:21 +0000

Though I agree with outlook you have on the unnecessary discrimination women place amongst each other I feel the need to argue that it is a necessary evil. I believe that as the culture has evolved to create the idea that women should be equal to men, women are beginning to attempt to keep their emotions hidden; using fashion and make-up as an outlet for how they really feel. Thus, as a woman I see it necessary when comments are made to me to ask myself, “what is it that they feel they are missing that I have” and in reverse when I see myself making unnecessary comments about another woman I need to step back and ask myself, “what is it that they have that I want”.
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By: JF

JF — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 23:00:03 +0000

I am a 61 year old male and I stumbled upon this blog by accident. It is not the type of blog I would normally read, however I found it very interesting and insightful. I wouldn’t worry in the least about the woman calling you a “cow”. People make those comments when they have deep unresolved fears about their own looks or persona. Belittling someone else makes them temporarily feel better about themselves, but ultimately they just become more bitter and twisted unless somehow they make a conscious effort to break the cycle.

Thank you for an interesting read.

By: Freeda

Freeda — Wed, 28 Sep 2011 00:39:24 +0000

So nice to hear this. We’re on the same ‘page’. 🙂
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By: Freeda

Freeda — Wed, 28 Sep 2011 00:33:40 +0000

Yi-up! It’s the unthinking behavior of humans. Most people don’t seem to utilizing our intelligence and compassion to review the social conditioning they obtained growing up. I hope you won’t hate me for saying this… It is not the thoughts that we should feel guilty about and dwell on that guilt. I personally know people in my life who are so ‘allergic’ to feeling guilty that their defense mechanism is to deny to themselves of having those thoughts AND to punish the person they perceive to be the source of their guilt.

In my humble opinion, it is a lot more effective and realistic for us to accept that we have knee-jerk thoughts based on our social conditioning, catch them when those thoughts sprout up in the mind, feel a little bad about the thought (not ourselves) and focus on doing ourselves proud by counter-acting those stupid thoughts.

Sometimes, women don’t just knock other women down based on physical attributes. Sometimes we are sexist against our own gender, especially in the workplace, but don’t get me started on this.. *sigh*

Anyway, you are absolutely right – we are all women, we are all real. Labels are so counter-productive, whichever direction.

By the way, if someone walks past and mutters cow at me, I might go “Moo!” just to shock and confuse the person and as a way to let him/her know that I can’t care less about their opinion of me.
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By: Felicia Stevenson

Felicia Stevenson — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 04:15:47 +0000

You say it, sister! We as women have the power to rebuild the world – let’s stop tearing each other down!
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