Comments on: Friend Friday: What makes someone authentic?

By: Beautifully Invisible

Beautifully Invisible — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 22:23:04 +0000

Thank you, Heather! Sorry I haven’t had a chance to top by your blog this week – playing catch up, but hope to do so shortly!
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By: Heather Fonseca

Heather Fonseca — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 21:47:09 +0000

Great post as usual. Lots of great food for thought!

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Heather
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By: Beautifully Invisible

Beautifully Invisible — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 21:32:30 +0000

Hi Fabienne! Thank you for visiting. I am so incredibly flattered that my name was mentioned as much as it was for this topic, you have no idea. I certainly appreciate all of the support!

All any of us can do is wait and see how our new blog-friendships play out. Hopefully they will surprise us in a good way! Looking forward to checking out your blog and learning more about you.

B
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By: Beautifully Invisible

Beautifully Invisible — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 20:14:06 +0000

I tend to think that the “follow me and I’ll follow you” people are generally more inexperienced bloggers. Hopefully as they gain more experience they see that isn’t the way to build relationships and gain followers. It’s all about community! I do tend to browse around a blog for a bit and lurk awhile before adding to my blogroll. I’d rather do that and get a better sense of the blogger than add them only to find myself removing them a few days later. Although i probably do have to tidy up my blogroll a bit. It’s grown a bit unwieldy already.

Yes, the reply notification is a WP plugin called ReplyMe. I quite like it, I just hope that it isn’t annoying any of my commentors. I wouldn’t want to be considered SPAM email, you know?
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By: Casee Marie

Casee Marie — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 05:39:57 +0000

Oh, thank you very much. It’s such a confidence boost to know you think that.

I personally really appreciate that philosophy. It’s not only good for you as a blog reader, but it shows the bloggers you follow that you appreciate their blogs enough to dedicate your time to them. It’s so easy to follow a blog that looks nice, but I think I need to get into the habit of at least reading through the first page and making sure it’s something I’m interested in completely. And yeah, I’ve gotten so many of those requests. Or the “I’ve followed you and it would be great if you followed me, too.” Then the person never leaves another comment. It drives me crazy, the ways people try to get their followers number up.

Oh and can I be a pain and ask – is your lovely new reply notification a plugin? I’ve been trying to find a way to let people know I’ve replied to their comments on my blog. Otherwise I feel like I’m responding to air!

By: Fabienne Jach

Fabienne Jach — Tue, 25 Jan 2011 04:23:46 +0000

Not only am I on a mission to read everyone’s answers* from this Friday’s topic, but so many people have mentioned you that I was definitely intrigued. I agree with you about making friends. I would say that there are several people that I feel qualify, in that special new friend kind of way. Hindsight will either prove me right or wrong, but I follow my gut-heart-mind combo pretty well. I look forward to reading more of your posts.

* I think I’m a little nuts for trying to do this but dang it, it just had to happen eventually. I’m a curious cat, dontcha know?
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By: Beautifully Invisible

Beautifully Invisible — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 22:23:32 +0000

Marissa you most definitely deserve the inclusion in the list. For bloggers like the two of us our content really IS king because it is all we have 🙂 There is no doubt that your personality comes through in your posts – that is why they are so enjoyable to read!
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By: Beautifully Invisible

Beautifully Invisible — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 22:21:50 +0000

MJ, that was beautifully said. I agree with you 100%, all the way down to the nonexistent magic formula! LOL A lot of people seem to get lost trying to be the blogger they think people WANT to see instead of the blogger they really ARE. That never works in the end!
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By: Beautifully Invisible

Beautifully Invisible — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 22:19:02 +0000

Thanks, doll! It’s so nice to have you back – I missed your posts (and comments here!) I know I haven’t had a chance to comment on your latest posts yet, but I will soon, promise.

I think both you and Marissa don’t give yourself enough credit. I know you are both relatively anonymous, like myself, but you still both do offer quite strong glimpses of your personalities to your readers. And honey, you ARE a strong writer. “techni-coloured little head.” and “verbal cul-de-sac!”? Those are such great descriptors, LOVE them!

It was my pleasure to include you, and you deserve to be on that list as much as the other ladies! As for my little friend in the photo – it does look like he is trying to steal the pumpkin, doesn’t it? Alas, I think he was just nibbling on a piece of straw. LOL
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By: Beautifully Invisible

Beautifully Invisible — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 22:12:59 +0000

Unfortunately, we all lose friends, whether it’s blog friends or “real life” friends. Generally, I think people just change and grow apart. Either that, or once they get whatever it was they needed from you, they move on. I had a great friend once who turned into the most emotionally draining person I have ever known. Needless to say that ended!

Good to know I am not crazy, and thank you for including me in YOUR list. I was honored to be included amongst all those names!
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